THE PSYCHOLOGY OF SADOMASOCHISM: KINKY CANALETAS VERSION

Have you ever been caught up in thinking what the hell drives guys (and not a few) to desire being humiliated, beaten, spat on, or used as sex toys to the extreme? Relax, you're not weird: this is about pleasure, hardcore sex, limits, and losing shame. Here, pleasure is linked to pain, harshness, control, or having your face stepped on and being treated like a whore. And yes, all of this is consensual and well-negotiated, nobody's crazy, but rather beastly.

This isn't just about guys in leather and whips in dark rooms. Sadomasochism is more out in the open than you think: those desires to be reduced to nothing, to have an alpha male order you around, whip you, spit in your mouth, or use you as a doormat. Or the opposite: having someone beg for your cock, your hand, your disdain. But beware, here the one in charge is usually the passive one, who with "subtle" gestures, indicates how far to go or when to stop. The one who seems to endure everything is the director of the scene, even if they end up on their knees.

Real S&M isn't about senseless aggression. It's about power games, animalistic sex, and deep desire under rules and limits between men who know what they're doing. Here, nobody's crazy: most people who enjoy humiliating or being humiliated are sane, working people, with very normal profiles... they just get extremely excited taking it to the extreme.

There are many clichés, but studies already say that gays lean more towards hypermasculinity, hard bodies, leather, gym, sweat, muscle, and testosterone, while straight men get more excited about pure psychological humiliation. But, in the end, there's everything everywhere.

Origins, but in a neighborhood style

The term 'sadomasochism' was invented by a guy in a lab coat, Doctor Krafft-Ebing; a guy who already sensed that people, men especially, are into hardcore stuff. According to him, sadism was a male thing and masochism, a female thing. In practice, the thrill is equal and there are as many guys as girls who enjoy it, only that guys usually start fantasizing about it earlier.

The Marquis de Sade was a freak who in his books already narrated rapes, tortures, orgies, and all kinds of messed-up things, but in his head, it was all a world of pleasure and power. Masochism comes from Sacher-Masoch, who wrote about women dominating, humiliating, and turning men into simple objects: their slave, their sex toy, the puppy they kick when they get bored.

If we look at history, nothing's new under the sun: Rousseau already said he would fall at the feet of authoritative women who punished him, and in India, it was normal for sex to be like a ring. The Kama Sutra makes it clear: successful sex needs some cruelty, some blows, some screams. All without censorship.

First theories (in "bring it down to earth" mode)

Doctors from centuries ago were already heating things up: Meibom is known for writing a small treatise called "...