What is Bondage?

The Pleasure of Bondage

What is bondage and why are we so attracted to this practice? What lies behind its original meaning: captivity, slavery? Being immobilized is something that is always among the most recurrent male erotic fantasies, but what drives us to seek the restriction of movement during sex?

What is bondage?

How much misinformation do we have to deal with when we are young, how many taboos do we carry! And I found a very extensive world that can range from an improvised scarf taken from the drawer of accessories to the skill, art, and complex bindings of the Japanese art of Shibari.

The word bondage means slavery or captivity, and despite the possible negative connotation of the words, it composes a world wrapped in pleasure and eroticism. It is part of the acronym BDSM, but it does not have to be linked to all its components. Let's set aside the rest of the initials, and focus on enjoying.

Bondage is power of the mind

The matter is more complex than it seems. Although many couples start exploring BDSM through bondage, the psychological and emotional processes are much more intense and complex than one might initially believe. Although immobilization is physical, the vulnerability that comes with surrendering to your Master and being bound goes far beyond mere bodily restriction. It is common to witness genuine emotional catharsis in a bondage session, and feelings are stirred that are clearly reflected on the faces of both those who bind and those who are bound. Often these emotions are contradictory for the one being bound: an infinite peace, accompanied by a certain fear. Surrender and submission, contrasted with the primal urge to defend oneself and fight. The impulse to flee or fight…without being able to do either, because you are immobilized.

But it is also true that the ultimate goal is pleasure, fun, to spice up the playful aspect of sexual games and cloak them with a certain element of danger and suspense. The complicity between partners reaches unsuspected heights, and the communication that must take place before, during, and after a bondage session allows sex to become sublime, but some premises must be met.

SSC: sane, safe, and consensual. These are the quintessential initials that define BDSM practices and should also apply to bondage, especially if you want to go beyond cheap handcuffs bought at a sex shop.

Why must bondage be consensual?

Any sexual practice must be consensual, but in the case of non-conventional activities, this aspect takes on an even greater importance. And, of course, it's preferable to do this before things heat up. In the midst of a passionate sexual encounter, it may not be a very good idea to restrain your submissive. Have you considered that perhaps it might trigger panic due to a previous bad experience? Or that, feeling restricted, they may not know how to react? If you are not clear about your partn...