THE PROTOCOL, AN EASY WAY TO CREATE THE “CLIMATE“ IN A BDSM RELATIONSHIP 1/2

BUT WHAT IS THE PROTOCOL?

WHAT IS THE PROTOCOL FOR?

THE PROTOCOL IN THE CONSTRUCTION OF A BDSM RELATIONSHIP

VERBAL PROTOCOL

WRITTEN PROTOCOL

PHYSICAL PROTOCOL

THE PROTOCOL ON THE INTERNET

THE PROTOCOL AT PARTIES

Some novice submissives sometimes ask through my blog how they should behave in front of a Dominant, they do not know how to speak to them, nor what to say in their presence. Another very frequent question is how they should behave at a party. This writing aims to help them know how to do it.

In addition, you will find suggestions for the protocol to help you create and maintain the climate (some call it “magic”) within a BDSM relationship.

The “magic” is a term often used in the BDSM Community to poetically indicate the special EMOTIONAL STATE created between Master and submissive during the D/s play. Sometimes, instead of this term, the phrase “emotional climate” is used to indicate the same thing.

When Master and submissive enter a session and FEEL their respective roles, a special “climate” is created between them. For someone who has not experienced it, it is a difficult phenomenon to understand that a completely free person suddenly feels submissive or Dominant to another person during a session. It is not surprising, then, that this phenomenon has been described as “magical.”

BUT WHAT IS THE PROTOCOL?

The RAE refers to the protocol as a “Established ceremonial rule.” Indeed, in BDSM, Master and submissive also establish rules of behavior in their games. The protocol can be divided into Verbal (the way of speaking) and Physical (the way of behaving, body language, attitudes...).

I hasten to clarify that the protocol is NOT mandatory in BDSM relationships, as are the three fundamental laws of BDSM: sane, safe, and consensual. On the contrary, the protocol has only the status of CUSTOM.

If a couple decides to include protocol in their BDSM relationship, it will be established in a way that suits them best, and it will evolve and change over time. The protocol is something very personal for each couple. Here I only intend to introduce the protocols that are usually more common in the BDSM Community.

WHAT IS THE PROTOCOL FOR?

I consider the protocol (both verbal and physical) to be an excellent resource for the couple to create the indicated climate at the right moment within a D/s relationship. The protocol has the property of reinforcing the climate between Dominant and submissive when they are in their respective roles.

The protocol can be so motivating for some couples that instead of saying, “let’s play,” they use the protocol itself as a signal to begin the play. In this way, the protocol becomes the “key” that opens the entrance to the D/s universe ...