My Reality in a 24/7 DS Relationship

I have a sentimental and BDSM relationship with my 24/7 submissive for 2 years now. And within what is possible, it works quite well with a lot of effort, consistency, and communication. Since it's not easy being dominant after having dinner with the in-laws, or being submissive after cuddling up to watch a movie. It's difficult, yes. But not impossible.

The main issue is realizing that fantasies are great, but real life is very different.

My relationship is totally macho. My slave does all the household chores, and of course, that sounds great as a fantasy, but sometimes it can be a real pain in the ass (for him) to see me scratching my balls while he takes care of everything. It's nice to imagine it as erotic, but when you're 24/7, it implies that even when you're angry or having a bad day, your task remains the same and doesn't change. For my submissive, it literally goes from being erotic to being infuriating, and I'm not talking about a Brat, my guy is 1000% submissive, but if he "gets out of his role," everything that usually turns him on makes him angry. This was probably one of the things that took the most to assimilate in our relationship. But by talking about it, we realized that the problem was that he was focusing everything on "equality" when he got out of his role... and obviously, in a macho relationship, you can be more or less submissive, but it's a macho relationship... and that took us a while. In fact, I myself have provoked situations where I have unintentionally forced a low performance from my 24/7 submissive by helping him too much with tasks or asking him not to do them out of "compassion." As I say, it's complicated to have a sentimental and BDSM relationship at the same time, but not impossible.

There's also a very common problem among submissives... and it's that they fantasize so much and with such intensity (especially if they're in chastity) that they ask for a "custom-made Master." They expect the Master to meet their expectations, and if not, they get frustrated...

A Master can't be 24/7 giving orders just like a submissive can't be 24/7 receiving them. Whoever says otherwise is living in a fantasy.

The trick (at least in our case) is to find a balance. To know what to do to "get your partner into role" before a sexual or kink act. Because you can't just go from eating paella with your parents to serving, or finish watching a movie and spit in someone's face. These are things that are out of context and may not be well received if there's no "click" that puts you in the situation. And I'm not just talking about the submissive's case, I'm also talking about the dominant. Because even if you're the most dominant Master in the world, if you're sentimental (and yes, ladies and gentlemen, Masters also have feelings) and suddenly lower your head and go into maximum submission mode, it can also throw you off in that moment.

That's why it's necessary to know your part...