The BDSM session

THE BDSM SESSION

A crucial aspect of BDSM relationships is the so-called "sessions." In the scene, a BDSM session refers to the moment when the play couple "gets into character" and carries out the previously agreed-upon practices. But how does a session take place? Undoubtedly, there are as many types of sessions as there are people in the BDSM scene, and yet, over the time I've spent in this environment, I've been able to identify "certain steps" that might help you, who are just starting out.

The first step is agreements, which are the foundation of everything and are indispensable. Before a session, whether with your regular play partner or someone you've just met, you must agree on things. Do this preferably in a prior conversation. Using playlists is a fantastic tool for this, as you can clearly define which practices are of interest and whether you have experience with them, and don't forget to agree on a safe word.

Also, agree on who will cover expenses, who will bring the toys - there are couples who share expenses (usually the dominant does) - and how long the session will last. You should also agree on where the session will take place; usually, the options are a hotel, a rental dungeon, or your own home. Be very careful about having a session at your own home, especially if you don't know the person or haven't known them for long, as you won't want unexpected visitors if something goes wrong. Rental dungeons are a great option, but they are scarce in Spain, so the hotel option remains; make sure the hotel is accessible and comfortable, as some hotels offer kinky options like swings and posts for tying up.

The second step would be individual planning; if you're dominant, you can plan point by point based on the playlist, although it's also okay if what you do during the session is spontaneous based on the agreements - it all depends on your style. If you're submissive, take care of your personal hygiene and ask your dominant if you should dress in a specific way.

On the day of the session, take your time to prepare, sleep well the night before so you arrive rested. Plan your travel time to the location.

As a dominant, you should direct the entire session according to your plan, but don't forget to ask your submissive how they're doing, be attentive to their reactions, and stop if you feel something is wrong.

As a submissive, let yourself go, trust that your dominant will respect the previously established agreements, maintain constant communication, and if you feel bad or uncomfortable at any moment, say so - use your safe word without fear if you want to stop.

Be aware of the spaces; many dominants are caught off guard by sub space and get scared. If this happens to you, touch your submissive, talk to them, ask them questions to help them "come back to their senses." If your dominant falls into top space, say your safe word loud and clear, as many times as necessa...